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Thank you for joining me on my journey in 2015!
I know I’ve already posted today, but this is one of those articles where I just have to share right away. When I get the inspiration, I have to go with it. I hope this will be as thought provoking to you as it has been for me. Writing is my coping mechanism and these are the results.
It has been a few years since my feelings have been hurt. It’s safe to say that I’ve grown enough as a person to be able to recognize when someone is projecting their insecurities onto me. Sure, their comments might irritate me but I wouldn’t say that my feelings have necessarily been hurt.
The last time I remember having my feelings hurt was when I was playing volleyball and a guy said something a little unkind to me. I even wrote about it and, oddly enough, named it “Getting My Feelings Hurt”. I had lost a lot of weight at that point, worked out regularly, could run miles at a time, etc. However, it was a sports activity like this that brought back all of those feelings from gym class in childhood. And there I stood with my feelings hurt, feeling awkward and fat. As a side note, I’ve long since forgiven this guy and I believe he’s actually a pretty nice guy—but I’ve never forgotten how that made me feel and I think that’s important to note.
Today, my feelings were hurt. Deep down hurt. The kind of hurt where you can practically feel your heart breaking. Again, I felt like the misunderstood fat girl standing alone on the navy blue line painted on the freshly polished wooden floor while the team captains argued over who would “have to take me” on their team.
As you know, I am so excited to have found my nutritional program. I love the way that I feel and I love that I am seeing progress on the scale & losing inches. I literally want to share it with anyone and everyone that I know, but I don’t because—well, I don’t want to be annoying.
I have participated in an online training program with a local personal trainer who has hit me up many times asking me to purchase her programs, etc. and that’s perfectly fine. I know that this woman is a successful trainer with many clients and I have always made it a goal to train with her in person sometime when I could afford it and when it would work out schedule wise.
Knowing that she has clients just like me, I knew she was someone that I definitely wanted to share with right away. Imagine if other people just like me could get the help that I’m getting—the thought of that made me so happy. So I shared with her—simply by giving her a video that explains our current health crisis and how this nutritional program addresses it.
She responded very rudely to me. I could tell that she was taking me completely wrong so I tried to make it right with her, it’s just who I am—I don’t like adversity and I wouldn’t intentionally try to make someone irritated with me. I wanted her to know my intentions were in the right place.
To sum it all up, she told me that changing your diet and exercising is all it takes to lose weight. I wanted to point out to her that while those are important, there is so much more to it from an emotional standpoint as well as a chemically within the body—if it were that simple, we wouldn’t have the obesity crisis that we do.
She told me that we have a problem with obesity today because people make excuses.
And so, I am obese because I make excuses. Do I make excuses sometimes? Yes. Is that why I’m obese? Definitely not. That is like calling someone who is obese lazy, not knowing anything about the person, simply because you see that they’re overweight.
The very sad part is that this is the message she’s giving her clients, including those people who are just like me. “You are obese because you make too many excuses. You’re lazy.” And I know all too well how that makes a person feel—not good enough. Eventually, we start to believe it.
Sometimes I just want to say, Don’t be a cover band; Jillian Michaels is already taken.
I don’t like the philosophy that what obese people need is someone to be tough on them and to break them down to nothing. That’s what has happened to obese people their entire lives. That’s not the answer. (I even wrote about this concept here!)
Addressing emotional problems is the answer and it has to be done in such a way that it makes the person believe in themselves, to take pride in who they are, and to have the courage and strength to achieve it.
Those of us who are chronically obese, for lack of a better term, have a unique life experience—it’s just different. I would bet to say that applies to all of us who have had a weight problem our entire lives—I just don’t think you can escape it. I recently had a converstaion with someone just like me who has battled obesity her entire life, despite constant efforts at weight loss. I can tell that she gets me and I totally get her when we talk. It’s a special bond that we chronically (and post-chronically!) obese people have.
We know what it’s like to be treated as less than.
We’ve had people who barely know us call us lazy, when in fact that’s far from the truth.
We were picked last for every sports game.
We came home from school and either ate our feelings or cried our hearts out to our moms.
We were never noticed by the guys we liked (until that special one!).
We know what it’s like to feel like we stand out when all we want to do is hide.
We think every laugh we hear in public is someone making fun of us.
We have been dieting almost every moment of our lives.
We know what it’s like to be degraded by health professionals. (remember this post?)
This list could go on and on. For myself, I know that this has made me the person I am today. Do I wish I had been skinny my entire life? Of course! But I don’t think I would be who I am today if I had been.
This emotional and psychological complexities are not excuses. They’re just honest truths.
They are not permanent barriers, but they are walls that must be broken down one brick at a time. Dieting and exercise alone cannot tear down these walls—this is coming from someone who has lost a large amount of weight by diet and exercise only to gain it back again because I didn’t fix those core problems which center within my mind.
It’s safe to say that common feelings amongst us chronically obese individuals are guilt and shame. Would you agree?
Guilt that we’re not skinny enough, good enough, fast enough, pretty enough, etc.
Shame that we carry our struggles in the fat that encircles our bodies.
We are embarassed to be who we are. We may even hate ourselves. We’ve grown to doubt our ability at practically everything because we’ve been told by society our entire lives that we aren’t good enough.
My fellow chronically obese friends (and the rest of you too!) let me be the first to tell you:
You are enough.
You are a survivor.
You are worthy.
You are beautifully made.
You are strong, just look within—it might be hard to see at first, but strength lies within your soul.
Coming to the realization that not only are most chronically obese people misunderstood by many health professionals, if we seek out help we are often misunderstood by those in the fitness industry also.
How can a professional help a chronically obese person without any effort to understand the person as a whole—mind & body. If only there were a specialty where a professional received both psychology training as well as fitness, etc. It seems like we’re missing pieces of the puzzle as we try to confront the obesity epidemic.
There is no amount of will power that will lead to long term weight loss and fitness if there is work that needs to be done psychologically. Believe me, I’ve tried and failed miserably.
More people need to reach out to psychiatric professionals for help with these issues. It’s not something to be ashamed about—you’d go to the doctor if you had a heart problem, right? You get the point. Therapists can help you fix issues that you thought would always be broken.
Our bodies are made up of chemicals and what we put into our mouths has an influence on our minds and bodies on that chemical level. Food can be like a drug—on a chemical level—where we are actually addicted. We wouldn’t tell someone who is addicted to alcohol that they’re lazy because they struggle with alcoholism—we recognize that chemically, their minds are compromised by addiction. How is obesity different?
Simply reducing calories and exercising does not fix that—anyone who believes it will is not educated enough on the nutritional issues that we face today.
There are so many misconceptions about those of us who are chronically obese. We are not sub-human and shouldn’t be treated as such. Instead, we should be judged by our character rather than the abundance of fat that we carry.
As such, this personal trainer will never get my business again because she showed me her character and it wasn’t very pretty. I don’t know what it was in her life that made her that way, but I am sorry for it.
May we all be kind souls, one to another—no matter what we look like. Just as you and I have unique stories, so does every other person with whom we rub shoulders with. We’re all struggling, but some of us just have the physical signs to show it.
Are you thinking about the goals you’re going to set out to achieve in 2016?
I know that I am! I’m excited at the prospect of a new year and a new me. I have big dreams about transforming my body, mind, and life.
It’s ok to dream big because you cannot achieve something unless you know what it is that you’re working towards. You have to know where you’re going in order to get there. However, you have to be realistic—this involves setting smaller goals that will ultimately help you reach the destination of your big goal.
This is the last post for the Healthy for the Holidays series that I’ve teamed up with Christina at Love Yourself Healthy to bring to you. We hope you’ve enjoyed this series!
It’s important to realize that big changes do not occur overnight and that they require a lot of hard work to achieve. The sweat and the tears can get in the way of our glamourous dreams. Even though the struggles are temporary, most people give up too soon.
One of my biggest pet peeves is when people complain about a situation but make no effort to change it. I could often be quoted saying, “Stop focusing on the problems and start looking for the solutions”. It’s a complete waste of time to let negativity cycle through your brain, causing anxiety, discontentment, irritability, and resentment. Instead, be more productive by thinking positively and looking for solutions to fix whatever it is that you need fixed in your life.
The beginning of a new year brings hopefulness to people all over the world. It’s a clean slate, a chance to start again and really get it right this time. Instead of feeling weighted down by whatever it is that causing unhappiness, we begin to feel inspired and believe that anything is possible. Imagine having that hopefulness all year long. It’s a mindset of finding the solutions rather than dwelling on the problems.
My goal over the next couple of days is to identify the problems that have been nagging at me and to come up with a solution for each one. This year, I’m all about solutions instead of just having good intentions with my resolutions. Start small and work your way to making that big dream a reality!
The Problem: I am overweight.
The Solution: I’ve already found the solution in a nutritional program that’s working for me. Remaining dedicated and consistent will require hard work. I will reach out to my support system when I am feeling weak.
The Problem: I’m not exercising conistently.
The Solution: Most days of the week, I won’t go to bed until I have 10,000 steps on my Fitbit. This means I will need to be more mindful of my activity throughout the day. I will schedule my workouts as if they are appointments.
This is meant to get you (and me!) thinking about what solutions you want to find in the New Year. I will share my list of problems and solutions within the next week. I’d love to hear about a problem you intend to solve, and how you intend to solve it, in the comments.
To help you find a solution to your fitness problems, we are giving away a Fitbit Flex to one lucky winner! Be sure to check out Christina’s post for more entries! Enter via Raflecopter below.
This post is sponsored by Blue Diamond Almonds. I was sent the almonds in exchange for writing this post. All opinions are mine.
New Years Eve is quickly approaching!
I believe that you should enjoy food with friends and family when celebrating a special event—only if you truly want to and it’s worth it, of course. There’s no reason to waste precious calories on mediocre cookies or dry mashed potatoes, you know what I’m saying? Have a few bites of the good stuff and stop there—give it your best effort.
I’m relieved that this is the last holiday until Valentine’s Day because I need some time to truly focus on my goals without interruption. I’ve made an awful lot of excuses lately for why I should indulge in something I really didn’t need to.
It’s Christmas Eve.
Only today because it’s Christmas.
We’re on vacation so it’s ok.
It’s a birthday.
This is my favorite pie.
If I eat this, my cravings will go away because I’ll feel satisfied.
We only go to this restaurant once per year.
It’s a snow day.
It’s really cold outside.
You name it and I could make an excuse for why I should eat something I shouldn’t. Heck, it’s Tuesday—isn’t that reason enough?
I’m going into the New Years holidays fully aware that I’m an excuse maker when it comes to indulgence. Each time I want to indulge, I’ll ask myself “is it worth it?” and make my choice from there.
It will help to have snacks around that are satisfying yet good for me too. Believe it or not, those foods do exist. I’ll be snacking on Blue Diamond Almonds over the holidays, specifically the Lightly Salted Almonds and Honey Roasted Almonds.
I might even share the goodness with my family. These would be great paired with raisins—yum!
What snack do you plan to share with friends and family over the New Years holiday?
Are you feeling bloated and addicted to sugar this morning? Christmas vacacation can quickly take its toll on the body—that’s for sure!
Once again, I had my good moments and my bad moments over the last week. Probably more bad moments than I’ve had for quite a while. I am learning how much foods affect the body—almost like chemical responses to foods which can cause cravings, sluggishness, and even just feeling down. It’s pretty amazing and it makes me want to feed my body with food that will help me feel my best physically and emotionally.
I was feeling very tired and down and I realized that I had been feeling that way since starting to use a stevia/erythitol sweetener blend. I quit using it and what do you know, I am feeling good again. That’s really strange and I wonder if it’s truly connected or a coincidence. The crazy thing is that when I felt my worst with PPD, I was using this product daily. Eek! Kind of scary. Stevia by itself doesn’t seem to bother me.
Anyways, I gained 2.9 lbs. this week. Bummer—but totally understandable with how I ate some days. It’s back to it 100% today and tomorrow hubby and I will do a nutritional cleanse—those always really help with my cravings and feels like I’m giving my body a reset.
I will be glad to to get January 1st so there won’t be any big holidays or events until Valentine’s Day. That should make it easier to make some good progress again!
Speaking of January 1st, I’m really excited to be embarking on a New Years Solution with a team of inspiring people. I will be participating in a program that will help me have a healthy mind as well as a healthy body. I’m looking forward to getting started and I know I will learn so much along the way! Let me know if you want to join me!
Have you stepped on the scale since Christmas? How are you doing?
This past week wasn’t a typical week for me. I was away for a day and a half, traveling and spending hours at the hospital for my mom’s surgery (everything went great, BTW!) Also, hormones. Overall, I’m ok with how I did but I wasn’t as strict as usual.
Specifically, I ate out at Red Lobster with my mom—I ordered the 4 course meal because I was craving clam chowder and it was cheaper to order this way. I ate 1-2 (can’t remember!) rolls, salad, part of a baked potato, broccoli, and then the brownie dessert. Most of the food was good for me, so I’d say that was a 50/50 meal! The rest of that day was on track.
The next day, I enjoyed a regular latte and cookie with my dad while waiting during my mom’s surgery. And then on my way home I had another regular latte and a rice krispy bar. So that was a little more indulgent, but not terrible since the rest of the day was on track.
The weekend went great. On Saturday night, I did have a non-fat hot cocoa at Starbucks because it was freezing cold outside. I really enjoyed it, but it wasn’t planned.
So basically, I just wasn’t as strict this past week and I want to work on that so I don’t start slipping backwards. What I love about this program is that I find it so easy to get it back together. I have days when maybe I make a choice or two that aren’t the greatest, but it doesn’t cause me to completely fall off the wagon. It’s so easy to just keep going. I can’t quite put my finger on why, but I will think about it and share when I figure it out. I have a few ideas.
My weight has stayed relatively the same and that has made me very happy. However, this morning I gained .2 of a pound. I’m confident I will see losses again this week.
I’m starting to think about what I want to do to take this journey to the next level. I’m considering getting a membership at Planet Fitness. They offer free fitness training, and so many more benefits. I will wait until the new year to see if they have any great deals. I just wish they had child care! Overall, it would make more sense to get a membership with free fitness training that it would to pay about the same for a few weeks with a personal trainer and nothing else.
By the way, there is free shipping TODAY ONLY if you are interested in joining me on the journey! I can set you up for wholesale pricing too. If you’re interested, shoot me an email to AJourney2Thin@gmail.com.
How did your week go? Did you see a gain or a loss on the scale?